Growing and Nurturing
From the moment of birth, you've introduced a new life in to the world. You can see a lot in a natal chart, especially in terms of personality. By using the natal chart, you can gain insight in to your child's temperament and learn how to best help your child grow and develop. It's also important to realize that every child is different, and that it isn't from 'bad parenting' that one child is less active or more emotional- these are natural parts of their personality, and require special care.
With astrology, we can see your child's natural temperament. From there, we can see if they have a "good fit" with you at home, and with their environment.
The areas of temperament that we examine together are: activity level, persistence and distractibility, intensity of reaction, quality of mood, sensory threshold, and if they approach/withdraw from new experiences.
This is helpful from infancy through adulthood, and can help you understand how to create a more successful environment for your child.
All adults have their own unique temperaments, that can clash with their children's (and each other's). Children in the same family can also have wildly different temperaments that require different parenting approaches.
We all have seen examples of this: the friend who's parents were highly active but their child preferred quiet, indoor activities; the distractable child who was always compared to their calm, focused sibling. Frustration can occur easily with these tensions, and the key to solving it is understanding.
Goodness of fit: "the compatability of your child's temperament with their environment, and the people around them"
Understanding the concept of "goodness of fit" can help you:
decide if changes may be needed so that there is a better match between the child and their environment.
approach a situation with more empathy.
help your children understand and manage their reactions to certain things.
have more realistic expectations about your children. Sometimes just knowing you have a child who is more challenging temperamentally can help you to understand that it is not your fault, you did not make this child the way they are, and it is not the result of “bad” parenting.
select situations or activities that “fit” for them so that they can feel more successful.
What do I get in a Children's Chart?
The Children's Chart option is a packet of information, analyzing your child's temperament. You will get a PDF write-up of their temperament type, and tips for parenting their specific needs.
You will also get an analysis of their chart in general: their strengths, needs, and age-appropriate insights. Included in this is a description of the "parenting axis"- the 10th and 4th houses. These houses can show us the balance of Structure and Nurture in their lives, and their perception of their parents (you). This is used for the "goodness of fit" description.
The more information, the better!
For this chart analysis, I need the birth time, place, and location for your child. I will also ask questions about your family, such as how many children you have, what their ages are, etc. If you are able to or willing to provide me with your (the parent) birth information as well, it can only add to the interpretation.
I studied with Cornelia Hansen through Kepler College, completing her course on Parents and Children in Astrology. She is the author of Kidwheels: Understanding the Child in the Chart.
Resources for Parents:
How can astrology help parents?
-More information on Attachment
-Psychological issues caused by Parenting Styles (video)
Dialogue and Communication
-9 things to not say to your Child
-How to communicate well (videos)
-How to deal with whining (Video)
-More communication help (videos)
-Emotions are not Bad Behavior